We're all playing a role we never wanted to play but are forced into. By
destroying/removing the things around you that define you, (Either
physically tearing it down or mentally ignoring it.) you become your
core self. We no longer have anything that defines us.
Self-destruction doesn't literally mean beating yourself in the
face(Only if you want to discover yourself at it's deepest level: Survival instinct, knowing you're going to die unless you step the **** up).
This is the correct answer to your question. :)